Essays
I’m a Newly Single Mom. How Do I Get Over My Body Worries?
“No one but my ex-husband has seen me naked in 15 years, and I’m terrified that it will disgust someone I might really like.”
How Do I Rediscover My Sexuality When I’m Completely Touched Out
If you’ve spent the last few years caring for babies and toddlers, is there any hope of getting back to yourself again?
The Best Dating Apps for Parents
A single mom's guide to dating apps (yes, she’s tried them all).
The Virginity Myth
The night I “lost my virginity” wasn’t the first time I had sex, but it was the first time it was consensual.
Choosing Everything: Why Queerness Is Freedom To Me
First, I want to give thanks to all the queer people who didn’t have the luxury of being offered opportunities to write essays about their queerness, and certainly not for pay. I recognize that the privilege I have in writing such an essay, specifically about mid-life queer awakening, is because of all the queer activists who refused to be minimized. I honor every person who has a story they cannot tell, and every person who has one, but was refused a platform — or wasn't ever afforded the decency of having their humanity recognized.
I Married Young. I Was Widowed Young. I Never Want A Long-Term Partner Again
My vow to stay a single mother would not mean limiting myself sexually and emotionally. I decided I would keep lovers — non-committal but satisfying short-term pairings. What I came to find was that this decision… would lead to the least toxic and most beneficial relationships I have ever been in.
It Was COVID. I'm A Single Mom. Casual Sex Was My Lifeline.
We reminded each other, amid the purgatory of COVID, that we were still alive.
The Year Of The Bike
Watching a boy learn to ride his bike reminded me that every moment we become better equipped to be here, more willing and able to move forward, to let go, to be free, to ride on.
#ProtectTransKids by Educating Cis Children
It was my honor to put together a roundup of books for various ages featuring trans and non-binary characters that educate and enlighten young audiences.
Sleepunders Are In
I didn't realize that "sleepunder" was a word and that "sleepunders" were common things until several people shared the sleepunder verbiage with me on Instagram. And then I went and looked up several posts about sleepunders and DUDE. YES. YES YES YES.